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Mother’s Day Lesson: How to be a Super Mom

Posted by Lori | Posted in Frickin Blog | Posted on 04-05-2010

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Whenever Mother’s Day comes around, I start feeling guilty. I compare myself to the super-idealistic-fairytale-wonder-woman-mom that I believe I should be. If it wasn’t for the free flower we get in church, I wouldn’t even crawl out of bed on Mother’s Day. Instead, I would remain in hiding and eat things like chocolate candy, ice cream and brownies while faking sick.

I know I am not the only Mom that feels this way. Why are we so hard on ourselves? Why do we hold our measuring sticks so high that it is impossible to reach them? We all love our children and are doing the best we can, right?

I recently took a personality test at work. According to the results, I am a “Type A” personality. This means although you may hire me to run your company, you won’t hire me as a nanny and I will mostly-likely never be voted mother-of-the-year.

So, here’s the question. Knowing my results, should I hold myself up to an idealistic measuring stick where women dress, look, sound, and act like Mary Poppins, or should I compare myself to Hillary Clinton?

I am thinking neither.

So, what kind of mother am I? What kind of mother should I be?

In an effort to answer my own question and avoid a little depression this Sunday, I have come up with my own criteria for a good mom.

7 Tips to Achieving Frickin Super Mom Status



1. Always be nice to your kids. Unless they draw on the walls, tell you they hate you, poop their pants or fail in school. Then, anything goes. And I mean anything.

2. When you have to decide between working late or the school play, choose the play.

3. When you feel like pulling out your hair or worse, take a time out. Try not to say things like, “Mommy needs a break before she is locked up in the mental hospital, kiddos,” or “Call 911, because one of us is going to need some serious medical help.”

4. Send your kids to bed early. Their bedtime is for YOU. Sure, you can tell yourself it is because you are concerned about their health, but seriously- you need some quiet time. This will help you be a better mom.

5. Feed your kids. Cold cereal is fine.

6. When your kids are asleep, go into their room and kiss them. It’s awesome. Maybe because it is quiet… but still, it’s awesome.

7. Laugh. If you can laugh at poop in the bathtub, being covered in spit up, or the crazy-roller-coaster-mood changes of teenagers, life will be easier. After all, these kiddos really do grow up fast and our time with them is precious.

Happy Mother’s Day to all of you frickin moms!

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Infant Botulism, a Frickin Nightmare

Posted by Lori | Posted in Frickin Blog | Posted on 29-04-2010

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Jonathan infant botulism Infant Botulism, a Frickin Nightmare

Jonathan in the ICU at Primary Children's with Infant Botulism

ABC4 was at my house last night doing a story on our baby, Jonathan, and his fight and victory over Botulism.

After living through the nightmare of botulism, I want all parents to understand how to protect their babies from contracting this disease.

About Infant Botulism

Infant botulism is very rare. Less than 100 babies are diagnosed in the U.S. each year with infant botulism and most babies recover fully. However, infant botulism has been linked to SIDS, with reports finding that up to 20% of babies that die of SIDS are actually found to have botulism poisoning. (Read an abstract of the report.)

Infant botulism poisoning occurs when a child ingests spores of Clostridium botulinum bacteria, which are found in dirt and dust and can contaminate honey. This illness typically affects babies who are between 3 weeks and 6 months old, but they’re susceptible to it until they are 12 months old.

The spores are usually harmless to older children and adults because their digestive system has matured and can pass the spores through the body before any harm is caused.

However, very young babies have immature digestive tracts and haven’t developed the ability to pass the spores. Once an infant ingests the spores, the bacteria germinate, multiply, and produce botulism toxin. This poison interferes with the nerves and muscles causing paralysis that can lead to the baby’s ability to move, eat and breathe. Scary Fact: Botulism toxin is the most poisonous substance on earth.

Protect Your Baby from Botulism

The best thing you can do to protect your infant from botulism is to keep him inside during wind storms. When you can see dust in the air, stay inside. Many cases of botulism are found where there is new construction and there is a lot of dust.

Also, avoid honey. Honey can contain botulism spores and should never be given to a child less than one year of age.

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Jonathan and Mom in the PICU

Symptoms

1. The first thing we noticed was constipation. His GI had become paralyzed and could no longer function.

2. Approximately 4 days after the constipation began, he seemed disinterested in food. He would not take a pacifier and would not breastfeed or take a bottle. Originally we thought this was due to constipation or an earache. However, this was because he could no longer swallow.

3. He became fussy but had a very weak cry. This was because he was hurting and also very hungry- he hadn’t eaten in 24 hours, but was losing the ability to cry due to paralysis.

4. No facial expression. His facial muscles had become paralyzed, so he couldn’t frown, blink, crinkle his eyebrows, etc.

5. No eye movement. His pupils could not dilate or constrict, even when we turned on a Mag-light flashlight and shown it in his eyes. He was completely blind.

6. Difficulty breathing. His breaths became very shallow, but because his chest and face were mostly paralyzed at this point, his nostrils didn’t flare and his chest didn’t rise and fall rapidly. Instead the breaths were shallow and rapid.

Our Story

The morning of Saturday, June 13, began at 5:00 a.m. with Jonathan lightly crying. I got him up, changed and fed him. He ate well and enjoyed kicking in his bouncer chair while I worked. I remember humming along to the tune as it played. Around 9:00 he ate again, but wasn’t very hungry. This would be the last time our son was able to swallow. We noticed he wasn’t hungry the rest of the day and milk would spill out of his mouth when we would attempt to feed him.

At a company party that afternoon, Jonathan was a little fussy, but I didn’t think much of it. He wasn’t coughing, didn’t have a fever, and seemed a little tired, but normal.

I kept offering him a pacifier, but he was disinterested. By 11:00 p.m., our son was weak, could hardly cry, his breaths were shallow and and he couldn’t see.

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Jonathan breathing for the first time

We rushed to American Fork emergency room. After becoming very verbal about the long wait, a kind mother insisted that we take her turn and told the ER to open immediately for us. A physician saw Jonathan and quickly dismissed our concern. The dr. diagnosed Jon with croup, ordered cool mist, a steriod, suctioning, and sent us on our way.

Three hours later our son was almost lifeless. He could no longer cry any louder than a whisper and could barely breathe. Tim was frantic and held Jon while I quickly dressed and we rushed out the door.

Tim has always been a fast driver, but when we passed a cop and his lights turned on, I knew he was really flying. I was scared that we wouldn’t make it to the hospital, and burst into tears when Tim had to pull over. The kind officer ran to my side of the car when he saw the babe on my lap and my hysterical crying. He announced, “It’s OK, I am a medic. Tell me what is happening.” Before we knew it, Jon and I were in an ambulance and were rushing to the ER.

A team of doctors and nursing staff were waiting for us, and quickly began evaluating and treating Jonathan. I was on the phone every few minutes with my family providing updates like, “they have called life-flight,” and “Jonathan’s pediatrician is here now, and is crying.” The doctors used words like, “serious” and “concerning.”

Later, we learned it was a miracle that Jonathan made it to the hospital and lived.

I remember driving with Tim (who was again, speeding) following life-flight to Primary Children’s. So much of the next few days are a blur. It took 3 days before he was properly diagnosed with infant botulism. He was paralyzed, blind, and couldn’t breathe without a ventilator.

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Corinne holding Jonathan

After receiving Baby BIG, a $43,500 single syringe of treatment, he began showing signs of improvement.

Jonathan spent one month in the ICU, and a total of three months in the hospital. It took him two months before he could breathe without oxygen and 7 months before he could eat again.

Once we brought Jonathan home from the hospital, we faced entirely new challenges. We cried, hoped, prayed and patiently taught him to trust us, drink a bottle and become a baby again. Read the rest of his story and watch the ABC4 News report here.

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ABC4 Video and Our Story on Infant Botulism- Coming Home

Posted by Lori | Posted in Frickin Blog, infant botulism | Posted on 29-04-2010

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Barb Smith with ABC4 interviewed our family regarding our experience with infant botulism. Below is the video, and our story once Jonathan was allowed to come home.

Coming Home

When Jonathan was discharged from the hospital he was very weak, months behind in development, and distrusting of almost everyone, especially me. He had severe oral aversion and wouldn’t let anything near his mouth.

Hospital Day3 jpg 225x300 ABC4 Video and Our Story on Infant Botulism  Coming Home Because I moved into Jon’s hospital room during his stay, he associated me with the pain he had suffered. When I would try to feed or comfort him, he would arch his back and flex his entire body in fear.

Tim began working with Jonathan to teach him how to drink from a bottle and be a baby again, and I worked on slowly earning his trust.

While in the hospital, Jonathan suffered through intubation, a spinal tap, an MRI, Cat Scan, hundreds of blood draws, IVs, the placement of feeding tubes (that went up his nose down into his belly) a machine that forced air into his lungs creating an artificial cough, multiple gags, and numerous other painful procedures. It took us months to teach him that he was home and safe.

Tim researched how to overcome oral aversions and patiently worked with Jonathan for hours each day. I managed his feedings and stayed awake at night to be sure everything went OK. Because he was fed through a tube that went up into his nose and down to his belly, he had to be closely monitored. Babies that are fed this way (NG feedings) can easily displace the tube, or try to remove it altogether. If this happens during a feeding, the baby can aspirate (his lungs fill with liquid) and it can cause pneumonia or worse.
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It was exhausting for both of us, but we were so thankful to have Jonathan home from the hospital, that it was worth all the work and stress.

Success with Feedings

Finally, after weeks of patient attempts, Tim was able to encourage Jonathan to drink a few teaspoons of milk. He continued working with Jonathan until he drank an entire ounce. This was a tremendous victory! It took weeks before Jonathan had the strength and desire to drink more than an ounce at a time, but eventually he did.

Germaphobes R Us

Now, we just had to keep him healthy. Because he was so weak, it was imperative that he didn’t get sick. He was diagnosed as immune compromised, and we were told to avoid crowds of people and “shared air space.”

Tim purchased air purifiers for every room in the home and we quickly became germaphobes. We didn’t go to movies, church, busy shopping centers, and avoided having people over. We even missed family events (including Christmas morning) because we couldn’t risk bringing home any germs or viruses to Jonathan. It was a long winter.Jonathan Legacy Center 225x300 ABC4 Video and Our Story on Infant Botulism  Coming Home

Happily Ever After

The good news? We made it! Jonathan is now healthy and happy. Our family is eternally grateful for all the miracles we witnessed during Jonathan’s battle with botulism, and all the support we received from our family, friends and employers.

Although I would never choose to repeat this experience, there were joys and times of gratitude that are so intense that the memories are sweet and beautiful. And even though I may not have been a super-duper sweetheart in the hospital (I gave the doctors and nurses an earful more than once!) I am also very grateful for the love and care he received from the staff at Primary Children’s.

A special shout-out goes to Tracey, Carrie, Kristin, Megan, Denese, Jessica, Dr. Osterling, Dr. Laarman, and Dr. Sakonju. I love you all to the moon and back!

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Frickin Facebook Hacker

Posted by Lori | Posted in Frickin Blog | Posted on 23-04-2010

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Cyberthief 300x225 Frickin Facebook HackerI was busy working on a report this morning, when I received a Facebook chat from my cousin, Alisha. It wasn’t long into the conversation, when I realized that either Alisha has suffered a very serious memory loss (she called her son by the wrong name) and can no longer spell, or I was chatting with a hacker.

Knowing Alisha is pretty up on her game, I decided that it must be the latter. I have always wanted to scam a scammer, so I took this opportunity to look away from my spreadsheet and enjoy a good laugh. For your pleasure, I posted the chat below. My comments are in italics.

Please note, I did use a little language, but in order to avoid typing it here, I replaced the word with symbols. However, if four symbols referencing the scorching underworld offends you, my deepest apologies (kind of).

Alisha: hey lori How are you

10:11amMe: Hi Alisha, I am great. How are you?

10:11amAlisha: not too good.. in a deep mess as we speak!

10:12amMe: I am so sorry. what is wrong?

10:12amAlisha: We got stranded in Wales

10:12amMe: What?! That is awful. Where is Wales? The whole family is stranded? (I knew there was a Wales in Utah, but couldn’t remember where. I assumed she was discussing a Utah city, as I knew she wasn’t out-of-town.)

10:14amAlisha: yes we got mugged at gun point last night! all cash,credit cards and cell phone was stolen! Connor is missing! (Um, her son’s name is Gary. HELLO HACKER! Should have done some research!)

10:16amMe: Oh my GOSH! (Really excited that I get to play along.) Where in Wales are you?

10:24amAlisha: I need your help!!

10:24amMe: What can I do for you? Want me to drive and pick you up? Wales is only a couple hours from here. Give me your location. (After I typed this, I thought, darn it! This may have ended the conversation.)

10:27amAlisha: Wales ,England (Really?! Wales, England? Isn’t that like saying Mexico, United States? HELLO! Wales is a country! Not only does this idiot have no sense of geography; he seriously can’t type.)

10:28amMe: Oh wow! What can I possibly do to help you? I will do anything for my cute cousin! You poor, poor thing! What are you going to do about Connor? What a nightmare?! (Yes, I think I could have a career in acting.)

10:29amAlisha: Our return flight leaves in few hours but having troubles sorting out the hotel bills  The local cops are carrying out investigations about that.. right now am totally devastated! we need financial help!

10:30amMe: Just tell me how much. I will wire immediately.

10:30amAlisha: couldn’t get a hold of anyone right now really sucks .. my head is presently hurting with my pregnancy i hate to say i’m sick right now

10:31amMe: How do I send the money to you? (By now, I have two co-workers in my office with me. We are all laughing hysterically.)

10:31amAlisha: I was wondering if you could loan me some few $$ to sort out the hotel bills and take a cab to the airport

10:31amMe: Of course!

10:31amAlisha: I will definitely refund… i still have my passport you can have it wired to my name and present location via western union  Do you any WU ??

10:31amMe: Oh no, don’t worry about that! What is WU?

10:32amAlisha: Western Union Money Transfer  Do you know any store near you?

10:32amMe: No, but I can probably find one. How much do you need?

10:33amAlisha: All we need is $2000  I promise to refund tomorrow

10:33amMe: Are you sure that is all you need? We can definitely send more.

10:34amAlisha: Yes.. that’s all we need but we may need some more if you can assist (We were hoping that this yahoo was uber excited and was thinking he had scored big time. )

10:35amMe: I also have Brenda on the line. She will send money too. (I am talking to my Aunt on the phone, telling her that the real Alisha better change her password ASAP.)

10:36amAlisha: You will need my details where to wire the money but meanwhile you can look up a near by WU office from the website

10:36amMe: I have one. Send me the account information. Hurry!

10:37amAlisha: Name – Alisha Jacob Beckstrom
Location – 59 Dan y Coed Road Cardiff,
London CF23 6NE United Kingdom (Can authorities work with Western Unions to stop this activity? This is pretty good information.)

10:37amMe: Anything else? Account number? (Really hoping I could get something to nail this criminal.)

10:37amAlisha: That’s all you need to wire to me i will pick the cash up with my Passport ID  no acct needed dear (Does this mean they have a fake passport in Alisha’s name? SCARY!)

10:37amMe: OK, consider it done…  Right after @%$ freezes over, you hacker loser.

10:37amAlisha: How soon will you get it done?

10:38amMe: After I report you.

10:38amAlisha: I know u are an !@%$#%@

10:38amMe: Reporting to facebook now.

So, there you go. Frickin cyber criminals using Facebook to steal money. What losers.

According to Symantec, identity theft happens every three seconds on the internet and has surpassed illegal drug trafficking as the #1 money maker. You may want to visit Scam Free Internet, it has some good information about protecting yourself against cyber crime.

Facebook is also aware of this, and has posted this information on their site regarding money transfer scams. I recommend choosing long and difficult passwords with letters and numbers and changing your passwords often. Hopefully, we can all be safer if we take this precautions. Frickin hackers!

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Disneyland on a Budget

Posted by Lori | Posted in Frickin Blog | Posted on 05-04-2010

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Our son was diagnosed with infant botulism and had to spend 3 months in Primary Children’s Hospital last summer. It was a trying time for the entire family.

We told our daughters that when he got better we would celebrate with a Disneyland vacation. The good news? He got better! The not-so-good news? We were buried in a mountain of medical debt.

By February, we needed a vacation- really bad. The question was, how would we pay for it? We are firm believers in the Dave Ramsey school-of-thought, and are against financing vacations with debt. So, what do you do?

You research, plan and budget.

Below is how we took six people on a Disneyland vacation for less than $1300.00.

How to Save Money at Disneyland


Tips for stretching your dollars and having a fantastic vacation without breaking your budget.

Disney Tickets

Never, ever pay full price for Disneyland Tickets. Instead, look on Craigslist.org, KSL.com, (or your local classifieds) and you can usually find another family that will split the expense of Park Hopper tickets. Six-day Park hopper passes are approximately $160 each. If you split the tickets with another family, each person can park hop for three days for a mere $80. Our total cost for three days at The Happiest Place on Earth (for five people): $400.00. (Note, Park Hopper tickets are only good for 14 days and are technically non-transferable. There’s my disclaimer. icon wink Disneyland on a Budget )

Disneyland Hotels

You can usually find a hotel in Anaheim for less than $50/night, but you may have to room with bed bugs. As much as we love a good adventure, we decided against this. We researched hotel rooms a few minutes each evening for about a week. We found the best deal through Bing (sorry Travelocity, Hotels.com and Expedia- Bing really does have the best deals on hotels.) We booked a suite at the Double Tree that comfortably slept six for $105.00/night. Total cost with taxes: $362.25.

Food

Food can really break your budget. I planned our meals ahead of time and it saved us a ton of money. I went to Costco and loaded up on drinks, pastries, sandwich food, snacks and fruit. We ate breakfast in our room each morning, and came back for lunch. We only ate in the park once, and chose close restaurants like Denny’s and Subway for dinner. For our one meal at Disney, we splurged and chose the Blue Bayou. It was a little expensive, but worth every penny. If you want a fun experience, make a reservation ahead of time and request the waterfront. It is frickin awesome.

Another quick tip: Pack a backpack with snacks and drinks. This saved us loads of money. We took a pack that kept drinks cold and we stayed hydrated all day. Disney also rents out lockers. If you want to pack a lunch, you can lock it up and eat it later. The lockers are a little small, so plan accordingly. I would recommend an insulated lunch box during hot summer days.

Food for five days: $290.00. (If we subtract the Blue Bayou, our food budget was $161.00.)

Trinkets

You can’t go to Disneyland without buying your little princess some Micky Mouse ears. This is absolutely forbidden. We budgeted $100 for souvenirs, but only spent $50.00. My sister went to Disneyland with her family a few weeks before and was also on a budget. They agreed to take a timeshare tour and earned $200 Disneyland bucks. As much as I adore time share pressure, we opted out of this recommendation. However, if you are strapped for cash, it is a good way to go.

Fun Disney tip: If you buy a balloon and lose it or it pops, Disney will replace it for free. Just show your string (or your moist-eyed child) to a balloon vendor and they will hook you up.

Total spend on souvenirs: $50.00.

Anaheim Transportation

If your hotel does not offer a free shuttle, you can either take a bus or pay for parking. The ART (Anaheim Resort Transport) picks up every 30 minutes and drops you off at your hotel, or very close-by. Check with your hotel, because they most likely offer discounted Day Passes. Otherwise, parking at Disney is $14/day. If you have a large group- parking may be cheaper. For us, the bus passes were more convenient. My kids hated the long walk from Disneyland to the parking garage, and preferred taking public transit.

Gas

Do you have an iPhone? Wait a minute; you don’t? Well, I can sell you one with a little water damage. icon wink Disneyland on a Budget Anyway, it is worth downloading the Gas Buddy application. We saved a ton of money by planning our gasoline stops. On average, we saved up to $10 every fill-up. The application even provides a map and directions to each gas station. We budgeted $200 for gas and saved $74 due to the frickin awesome Gas Buddy. Total spend on gas: $126.00.

So, there you go!

Question- was following this budget inconvenient? Tim would say, “Yes, abso-Frickin-lutely.” I say, “Yes, at times.” However, for us it was worth the planning. We had an amazing time and really didn’t feel like we were missing out on anything. In fact, it made me feel better about the trip, because we were being responsible and not spending money that we didn’t have. In fact, we got back from the trip and paid off a hospital bill. To me, that is success.